My Spouse Just Asked For A Divorce: What Do I Do?

Dec 12, 2023 | Family Law | 0 comments

Couple fighting and getting a divorce. Courtney Anderson - Attorney - Divorce

The moment your spouse asks for a divorce, time can feel like it stands still. A whirlwind of emotions ensues, and knowing what to do next is often overwhelming. Here’s a structured approach to help you navigate through the initial shock and take steps that protect your interests and well-being. 

Pause and Process

Before anything else, give yourself a moment. It’s okay to feel upset, angry, or confused. These are natural reactions. Consider reaching out to a therapist who can provide support during this emotional time.

Gather Information

Knowledge is power. Start by understanding the basics of divorce law in your state. This will help you to grasp what the process may look like for you.

Secure Legal Counsel

One of the most crucial steps is to find a divorce attorney who aligns with your needs and values. An experienced attorney like me, Courtney Anderson. I can offer the guidance and advocacy needed to navigate the legal aspects of your divorce.

Document and Inventory

Begin documenting marital assets and liabilities. Create a comprehensive list of your possessions, property, bank accounts, debts, and other financial records. This will be essential as you enter the division of assets phase. 

Set Goals

Think about your priorities and what you want your life to look like post-divorce. Whether it’s securing your financial future or co-parenting effectively, setting clear goals can guide the decisions you make during the divorce proceedings.

Communicate Carefully

How you communicate with your spouse during this time can impact your divorce. It’s advisable to keep interactions civil and, where possible, in writing. Utilize communication tools and guidelines. Any text messages or emails, have the potential to become part of your litigation. 

Protect Your Privacy

Change passwords and secure personal information. Ensure that your private communications stay private, as this information could become part of the divorce proceedings.

Plan Financially

Understand your current financial situation and begin planning for the immediate future. This may include setting aside funds for legal fees or establishing credit in your own name. Financial planners specializing in divorce, like those certified by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, can be invaluable during this time.

Consider the Children

If children are involved, their well-being comes first. Familiarize yourself with child custody laws and be prepared for the conversations you’ll need to have about parenting arrangements.

Stay Proactive, Not Reactive

It’s easy to become reactive when faced with divorce. However, staying proactive and informed will help you make decisions that are in your best interest for the long term.

Asking “what do I do now?” after your spouse requests a divorce is understandable. Remember, this is a beginning, not an end. With the right support and guidance, you can navigate this transition toward a positive new chapter in your life. For further guidance, contact me, Courtney Anderson, for a consultation.